{"id":2036,"date":"2012-05-30T17:39:45","date_gmt":"2012-05-30T17:39:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/chappelltherapy.com\/?page_id=2036"},"modified":"2023-11-28T02:38:33","modified_gmt":"2023-11-28T02:38:33","slug":"couples-therapy-faq","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"http:\/\/chappelltherapy.com\/couples-therapy-faq\/","title":{"rendered":"Couples Therapy FAQ"},"content":{"rendered":"
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It’s normal to feel a bit out of your comfort zone to consider a\u00a0couples therapy appointment. Some couples have never done therapy and others have had negative past experiences. Couples therapy is also stigmatized in various ways which lead people to have some misconceptions about how couples therapy works. I want you to feel as comfortable\u00a0as possible coming into our appointment. To do so, I’ve attempted to answer common questions and concerns:<\/p>\n
When providing couples therapy, my client is your relationship and for that reason I prefer to meet with both partners together. Time is spent on understanding each person’s experience in the relationship with the focus on understanding each person’s position in the relationship. On occasion, I will schedule an individual session. \u00a0Individual meetings are always arranged with both partners agreement, and with the understanding that I hold a “no secrets” policy. The focus would be on individual issues that can be integrated into the couples work.<\/p>\n
As your therapist I take a direct role in relationship counseling. \u00a0I consider myself a process consultant, an active participant in your sessions. My goal is to sift through the content and get to the heart of the issue. I will get a real sense of your experience in ar tag heuer aquaracer cay211a 003 43mm men quartz stainless steel<\/a> the relationship and how your relationship works. I view the building of “a safe haven” in your relationship as my primary task, and we will focus on your primary needs \u2013 to feel close, secure and responded to \u2013 which probably underlie most of your couple’s conflict. \u00a0Together we will identify the behavior patterns that seem to take on a life of their own as they cycle into repetitive interactions that cause pain, disconnection and isolation. We work on changing these negative interaction cycles in a non-judgmental environment, creating a new way of communicating and connecting.<\/p>\n Yes. \u00a0I see the relationship experience as a kind of “dance.” \u00a0Together we will identify the pattern of interaction that is causing your relationship distress. We will clarify your part in the dance, then you can change your “steps.” \u00a0You will bring about changes in the relationship by addressing your own issues and making personal progress. Can I meet you to see how it feels and decide if I am comfortable with you as a therapist? Yes. \u00a0I offer a free 30 minute consultation so that you can get a feel for what couples counseling is like. If for some reason we are not a good match, I will provide you with referrals so that you are able to find a therapist with whom you feel comfortable.<\/p>\nIs there a way to work on my marriage if my partner is unwilling to attend?<\/h2>\n
What is your theoretical orientation?<\/h2>\n