{"id":3513,"date":"2014-09-25T20:17:38","date_gmt":"2014-09-25T20:17:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/chappelltherapy.com\/?p=3513"},"modified":"2014-09-25T20:17:50","modified_gmt":"2014-09-25T20:17:50","slug":"8-ways-individual-therapy-helps-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/chappelltherapy.com\/8-ways-individual-therapy-helps-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"8 Ways Individual Therapy Helps Your Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"<h1><a href=\"http:\/\/chappelltherapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/09\/Counselingforrelationship.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-3516\" src=\"http:\/\/chappelltherapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/09\/Counselingforrelationship-300x300.png\" alt=\"individual relationship counseling\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"http:\/\/chappelltherapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/09\/Counselingforrelationship-300x300.png 300w, http:\/\/chappelltherapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/09\/Counselingforrelationship-150x150.png 150w, http:\/\/chappelltherapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/09\/Counselingforrelationship-1024x1024.png 1024w, http:\/\/chappelltherapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/09\/Counselingforrelationship.png 1600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a>8 Ways Individual Therapy for Relationship Issues Can Help Your Partnership<\/h1>\n<p>\u2018nothing sadder than when you know your relationship is in trouble \u2013 your partner may even agree \u2013 but you are the only one willing to seek help. \u2018nothing more ridiculous than half of a couple going to couples therapy. \u2018nothing more embarrassing than finding a therapist and having to explain that you will be the only client. \u2018nothing lonelier than walking in that office for the first time all by yourself.<\/p>\n<p>Why bother then? Because you are clearly troubled, maybe more than your partner. Because you want a better relationship and you have the courage to confront your issues and actually do something about them. Because you are doing what is necessary to take care of yourself.<\/p>\n<p>You may not believe it now, but you are also taking care of your relationship. Of course it would be ideal if both of you walked into the office together, but if only one of you becomes stronger and more balanced, the relationship will also benefit. Here\u2019s how:<\/p>\n<p><strong>1. You\u2019re happier.<\/strong> You\u2019ve got some unhappy things to talk about with your therapist and at first it may seem that everything is just getting worse. Getting in touch with difficult feelings and\/or\u00a0betrayals that come up in your conversations with your therapist may not feel good at first. But you are doing the work that makes recovery possible. You\u2019re venting the poison you and your partner have been sharing. Soon \u2013 sooner than you expect \u2013 you will begin to understand what\u2019s been going on and gaining hope that you can not only survive it but change it. By opening up the difficult emotions, you also make room for the good ones too. You\u2019ll remember how to enjoy your life and find some level of peace with your unhappy partner.<\/p>\n<p><strong>2. You communicate better.<\/strong> You and your partner used to talk all the time, pouring out your admiration for each other and your life together. Then your conversation died or grew sharper (and louder). But the fact is you weren\u2019t really communicating well. One of the primary skills individual therapy teaches is how to communicate honestly, clearly, and in a way your partner may be better able to hear you. Your partner may not have these skills, but your new skill will elevate the level of your discussions.<\/p>\n<p><strong>3. You fight fair<\/strong>. Just because you\u2019re in therapy doesn\u2019t mean that all disagreements disappear. They shouldn\u2019t. Disagreement is a part of any vibrant relationship. The key is to express your feelings and to listen to your partner and respond with game-changing understanding and kindness.<\/p>\n<p><strong>4. You know yourself better and understand your partner more.<\/strong> A great gift of individual therapy is helping you recognize your own feelings and motivations. Even though your partner isn\u2019t participating, your therapist can help you imagine your partner\u2019s perspective.<\/p>\n<p><strong>5. You are a better parent.<\/strong> If you have kids, they are participants in your relationship problems. The stronger and more balanced you are, the more you are able to help them understand what\u2019s going on. If a child is contributing to your relationship issues, your therapist can walk you through your child\u2019s problems. You may decide that family therapy will also be healing.<\/p>\n<p><strong>6. You\u2019re less desperate.<\/strong> Chances are you\u2019re more concerned about your relationship than your partner, since you\u2019re willing to take action. Your partner may perceive you as needy and overly dramatic. As you understand your feelings and recognize that there are actions you can take on your own, you can let go of whatever demands may be scaring your partner.<\/p>\n<p><strong>7. You have techniques to share.<\/strong> You\u2019re learning a lot of new skills that are very valuable to family relationships. You can bring that information home and (gently) educate the rest of the family.<\/p>\n<p><strong>8. Your partner may change his mind.<\/strong> You\u2019re the trailblazer here. When your partner sees you feeling better about yourself and your life and the relationship, it can be reassuring. He may decide that therapy is less threatening and more helpful than he imagined.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #333300;\"><span class='mb-center maxbutton-1-center'><span class='maxbutton-1-container mb-container'><a class=\"maxbutton-1 maxbutton maxbutton-book-your-appointment\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/chappelltherapy.clientsecure.me\"><span class='mb-text'>Schedule Your Appointment<\/span><\/a><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>8 Ways Individual Therapy for Relationship Issues Can Help Your Partnership \u2018nothing sadder than when you know your relationship is in trouble \u2013 your partner may even agree \u2013 but you are the only one willing to seek help. \u2018nothing more ridiculous than half of a couple going to couples therapy. \u2018nothing more embarrassing than [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"yst_prominent_words":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/chappelltherapy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3513"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/chappelltherapy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/chappelltherapy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/chappelltherapy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/chappelltherapy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3513"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/chappelltherapy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3513\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/chappelltherapy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3513"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/chappelltherapy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3513"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/chappelltherapy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3513"},{"taxonomy":"yst_prominent_words","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/chappelltherapy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/yst_prominent_words?post=3513"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}