{"id":3530,"date":"2014-10-16T21:57:35","date_gmt":"2014-10-16T21:57:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/chappelltherapy.com\/?p=3530"},"modified":"2023-11-28T02:43:05","modified_gmt":"2023-11-28T02:43:05","slug":"can-relationship-survive-infidelity","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/chappelltherapy.com\/can-relationship-survive-infidelity\/","title":{"rendered":"Can A Relationship Survive Infidelity?"},"content":{"rendered":"
[et_pb_section fb_built=”1″ admin_label=”section” _builder_version=”3.22″ global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_row admin_label=”row” _builder_version=”3.25″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_column type=”4_4″ _builder_version=”3.25″ custom_padding=”|||” global_colors_info=”{}” custom_padding__hover=”|||”][et_pb_text admin_label=”Text” _builder_version=”4.14.8″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” hover_enabled=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}” sticky_enabled=”0″]<\/p>\n 2.\u00a0<\/b>Make amends and come clean.\u00a0<\/b>The cheater, of course, has the most work to do here. She has betrayed the trust of someone who loves her. She has endangered the most important relationship in both their lives and, to at least some degree, the life of a third person. Apology doesn\u2019t begin to cover it. The cheater owes her partner complete honesty \u2013 what happened when, what prompted it, what she told her lover about her partner, where they went to be alone, where she\u2019s going now, and with whom \u2013 whatever the cheated on partner wants to know.\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n 3.\u00a0<\/b>Take responsibility.\u00a0<\/b>Something was going wrong in your relationship that made the affair possible. While absolutely nothing excuses an affair – you both played a part in that disconnect. It\u2019s time for some self-reflection and courageous honesty.\u00a0<\/b>No one gets a free ride here;\u00a0<\/b>you both have something to discover and take responsibility for.<\/b><\/p>\n 4.\u00a0<\/b>Be honest with one another.\u00a0<\/b>When dishonesty becomes a habit in small things, it makes bigger deceit much easier. Of course the cheater has practiced hiding and lying, but chances are the cheated-on partner has also been lying, if only to herself, to avoid knowing something unwelcome. Pledge that neither of you will fudge on anything going forward.<\/b><\/p>\n 5.\u00a0<\/b>Agree to change.\u00a0<\/b>Think of it as an opportunity to create a better partnership. Likely you each have some wisdom about what was missing from your relationship. The conversation about that and about what you each can do to improve your partnership will help bring you closer. As each of you follows through on the changes you\u2019ve agreed on, you are proving to your partner how committed you are to improving your life together.\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n<\/a>Overcoming Infidelity \u2013 One Step at a Time to Resolution<\/h1>\n<\/header>\n