{"id":3544,"date":"2015-01-13T18:49:14","date_gmt":"2015-01-13T18:49:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/chappelltherapy.com\/?p=3544"},"modified":"2015-03-29T06:39:40","modified_gmt":"2015-03-29T06:39:40","slug":"5-tips-prepare-relationship-babys-arrival","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/chappelltherapy.com\/5-tips-prepare-relationship-babys-arrival\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Tips to Prepare Your Relationship for Baby\u2019s Arrival"},"content":{"rendered":"<header>\n<h1 class=\"title\"><a href=\"http:\/\/chappelltherapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/01\/PrepareRelationshipforBaby.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-3545\" src=\"http:\/\/chappelltherapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/01\/PrepareRelationshipforBaby-300x200.jpg\" alt=\"MarriageCounselingandBaby\" width=\"300\" height=\"200\" srcset=\"https:\/\/chappelltherapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/01\/PrepareRelationshipforBaby-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/chappelltherapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/01\/PrepareRelationshipforBaby-1024x683.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a>5 Tips to Prepare Your Relationship for Baby\u2019s Arrival<\/h1>\n<\/header>\n<div class=\"post-meta\"><\/div>\n<section class=\"entry\">Ready or not, babies insist on arriving. You\u2019ve probably already done a lot to be ready for the newcomer. You\u2019ve read a stack of books tracking the fetus\u2019 life day by day. You\u2019ve run through the exertions of labor with a room full of panting strangers in Lamaze classes. You\u2019ve hung just the cutest curtains in that newly painted room. You\u2019ve filled the little dresser with clothes so small they seem designed for your childhood baby<a name=\"_GoBack\"><\/a>\u00a0doll instead of a living human being and built mountains of diaper boxes in the corner. Ready? Not quite.You and your partner are about to embark on one of the hardest, and most joyful, challenges you\u2019ve ever taken on. You are, believe me, going to need each other like crazy. Your relationship may be a thing of envy to your married friends, but when that tiny addition takes up residence, your beautiful and comfortable relationship is in for some major changes. Below are some suggestions on how to get your all-important partnership ready:<\/section>\n<section class=\"entry\"><\/section>\n<h3 class=\"entry\"><b>1.\u00a0<\/b><b>Discuss your expectations with each other.\u00a0<\/b><\/h3>\n<p class=\"entry\">Unless you talk it out, you may find that you each have very different expectations of who does what and how often. Who will get up when the baby cries? \u201cSugar, I figure since I\u2019m the one who has to go to work in the morning that you\u2019d do it.\u201d \u201cHoneybunch, I\u2019m going to be pushing a person out of my body \u2013 we\u2019ve seen the video \u2013 and I\u2019m going to need to rest and recuperate.\u201d Beyond the issue of working out the work schedule, there are lots of potentially divisive issues that will assault you from the get-go: Breast feed or bottle? Circumcise or not? Even, cloth diapers or disposable? You\u2019ve got some discussing to do now, while you can.<\/p>\n<section class=\"entry\"><\/section>\n<h3 class=\"entry\"><b><\/b><b>2.\u00a0<\/b><b>Plan for relief.\u00a0<\/b><\/h3>\n<section class=\"entry\">Babies are small and immobile. They have few interests beyond eating and sleeping (a lot). How hard can this be? Oh, boy, the surprises waiting for you. You are both going to be worked off your feet. This is not the time for false pride. If you can afford it, line up household help and search now for a trusted babysitter. Call in whatever chits you have with family members. Pay it forward with pregnant friends, offering them a taste of what\u2019s to come in exchange for providing them a break when you\u2019re able.\u00a0<b><\/b><b>3.\u00a0<\/b><b>Make a list.<\/b>\u00a0Write and post a chart of which of you is responsible for which tasks. It will help you plan ahead (so many tasks!) and make sure nothing falls between the cracks. It will also provide a clear picture of how much time each of you is putting in if one of you feels the need to renegotiate.<b><\/b><\/p>\n<h3><b>4.\u00a0<\/b><b>Create a financial plan.\u00a0<\/b><\/h3>\n<p>Dads, in particular, may feel anxious about being able to provide for the family financially. If one of you is going to stay home with the baby, how are you going to make the money stretch? Build a budget and stick to it. You may want to set up a separate account for the stay-at-home parent, who may miss the autonomy of having money of his or her own.\u00a0<b><\/b><\/p>\n<h3><b>5.\u00a0<\/b><b>Don\u2019t forget your other relationships.\u00a0<\/b><\/h3>\n<p>If you have other children, their relationship with you and your partner and with the new baby needs forethought and nurturing. Their relationship with the baby will be longer than yours, so it\u2019s important to get it started on a positive footing. Give them as much information as they can handle about where the baby came from and what it may mean to their lives. Let them know that they are important and contributing members of the family and will always be fiercely loved.<\/p>\n<p>Having a baby is truly one of the most amazing experiences&#8230;one that you want to experience together, not separate. If you are struggling with feeling distant or not on the same page &#8211; contact a Couples Therapist who can help guide you through this special and vulnerable time in your relationship.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<span class='mb-center maxbutton-1-center'><span class='maxbutton-1-container mb-container'><a class=\"maxbutton-1 maxbutton maxbutton-book-your-appointment\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/chappelltherapy.clientsecure.me\"><span class='mb-text'>Schedule Your Appointment<\/span><\/a><\/span><\/span>\n<\/section>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>5 Tips to Prepare Your Relationship for Baby\u2019s Arrival Ready or not, babies insist on arriving. You\u2019ve probably already done a lot to be ready for the newcomer. You\u2019ve read a stack of books tracking the fetus\u2019 life day by day. 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