You love your partner and things have gone off track. You want to be able to communicate without fighting and resolve issues on your own. You tried to improve things only to find that you go in circles without fully addressing the relationship distress. You are not alone and it is not hopeless. Many couples get stuck in a negative pattern that leaves them wanting more but feeling stuck. Couples Therapy can be a welcome unbiased, non-judgmental place to untangle issues, get to the root of the problem and (re)create a loving relationship.
What brings Couples into Couples Therapy?
There are many reasons that bring Couples into Couples Therapy. Most of the time, couples who engage in Couples Therapy have done everything they know how to do to fix their issues. They often feel helpless/hopeless, lonely, frustrated and angry. They know where they want to be but cannot seem to get there. Communication, sexual intimacy, and feelings of togetherness have broken down. Other times, couples do feel connected but cannot seem to resolve one or two particular issues that keep coming up. I often hear from couples who are experiencing relationship difficulty and cannot seem to connect. Couples who come into therapy for a variety of issues, including:
- Conflict Resolution
- Lack of Intimacy
- Family (Step & In-law)
- Anxiety/Stress Management
If you are having trouble with these issues – don’t wait to get help. An experienced therapist can help. Most couples wait on average 7 years before coming to therapy. Be proactive and address these issues as soon as possible.
How Couples Therapy Helps:
As a Couples Therapist, I view couples therapy as a collaborative process. Discussing relationship issues is incredibly sensitive and difficult. For that reason, I provide a safe haven where problems are discussed without fear of judgment or taking sides. Your relationship is my client. I am active in session and will honestly communicate what I see and feel while always checking in to see if “I’m getting it right”. My objective is to understand both partners’ experiences in the relationship change destructive relationship patterns to create a stronger, open and meaningful connection in the relationship. We will:
- Identify negative patterns that create distress (where things get “off track”)
- Stop blaming/criticism
- Reengage a “checked out” partner
- Recognize the cause & effect patterns in your relationship
- Create a deeper understanding of each other
- Experience effective communication
Together, we will change destructive relationship patterns to create a stronger, open and meaningful connection in the relationship.