Having problems does not mean there is something wrong with your relationship. What is more important is how issues are resolved in your relationship. If a couple does not know how to navigate through conflict then nothing gets resolved and resentment builds. Often, couples will come to therapy when they are feeling a disconnection, not understood or “very different” from one another. When problems arise, they find themselves caught up in either avoiding the conflict or getting into heated power struggles. Most common, one partner will try to work it out while the other needs space. The initial issue or feelings are never mended or healed. According to relationship researcher John Gottman, lack of adequate repair following an argument is the biggest contributor to marital unhappiness and divorce.
If you are experiencing difficulty with communicating, feeling understood or resolving conflicts I can help. Contact me today so that I can get an understanding of what you are experiencing. Together we will identify what is getting in the way of healthy communication in your relationship. Using Emotionally Focused Therapy, you will get a deeper understanding of what is underlying the communication issues. Then, we will work to create a new way of communicating and resolving conflict that brings you and your partner closer together. You and your partner will gain new experiences of talking about difficult subjects in an open, honest dialogue. Doing this increases your couples emotional bond. When your emotional bond is strong, you will have the confidence to manage anything that comes your way together.